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genuine help needed..I am being harassed, insulted, critiicized, name called on a forum I got on 2 weeks ago.?

Question by janie: genuine help needed..I am being harassed, insulted, critiicized, name called on a forum I got on 2 weeks ago.?
I was very depressed and even somewaht suicidal when I posted initially 2 weeks ago, This forum deals with sleep disorders and I don’t want to leave as I am learning more in 2 weeks than in the previous 15 years and see real hope for an assortment of related ills. I started a thread among thousands on sharing alternative treatments for various sleep disorders and it immediately got attacked by people who don’t believe in alternative health

When I defended my view, it apparently exacerbated their dislike and about 5 people are being rude and started criticising my intelligence, spelling, character traits, mental health, and tons of things in a very cruel and mean way, I stuck up for myself and now they seem madder than ever in their vigilence to attack me.

I eventually told them I was very vulnerable, dealing with a lot of personal problems, crying from their posts,. and essentially begging them to stop and if they didn’t
believe in natural health to please go to any of the thousands of other threads and stop harassing me or go to the 1999 other threads that don’t discuss this topic if it bothers them. A few are only posting on my thread and one even is personal messaging his hateful talk.

I would like advice on what is behind this, how to get it too stop and how to get the thread back on topic. Also how to help myself not respond which I am attempting to do but it’s hard and not let it get to me. I have learned more in 2 weeks on this website than in 15 years and my doctors and for the first time I feel real ho[pe I may get some of these disorders that have ruined my life for about 25 years so I don’t want to leave. I feel like they are trying to chase me away and upset me though they turn it around and say they weren’t bashing just before they bash or say essentially leave if you don’t like it–we will continue.

Advice badly needed as it is REALLY starting to get me down.
what is with people who kick people when they are already down?
I have justr found out my sleep apnea pressure was not high enough and I have 2 iother sleep disorders and have been having apnea, lack of oxygen, retaining carbon dioxide in the lungs doe to high pressure of cpap treatment, and that this is related to my long standing depression and about 15 other disorders of various types. the doctor told me it can mimic mental illnesses and is a cause so I believe it is due to physical disorders and I do have a doctor and was not seeking help on yahoos but on a sleep disorer site where I learned so much
justanot..you made me laugh. I can’t delete their remarks as they become part of the thread but I will delete the ones in the mailbox. I am trying to ignore them. I posted twice since I begged themnot to harass me and they continued but both posts had nothing to do with their remarks and stuck with the thread topics so far they haven’t responded again. I am going to never respond to them on any thread hoping they will leave me alone. I am also hoping someone on there might come to my aid. A few have earlier in the thread. I wish I didn’t take everything so personally (but it is personal when they call you nuts, insult your gifts etc). I guess I need to handle it like one does a stalker –never respond to them as each contact buys you 3 more months of harassment and makes the behavior difficult to extingusih. Generally they up the contact or abuse to try to goad a response from you..thanks guys.
wendy, to clarify, I do NOT have manic depression. I have suffered from total exhaustausion over 25 years and clinical depression close to that long. I have recently found out that the sleep disorders were (sleep apneas) they had at wrong pressure on cpap for past 10 years and I was still having apmnea and getting little rem and stage 3 and 4 sleep and 2. periodic limb movement droder (untreated and just diagnosed). These sleep disorders are linked with depression and cause it and my doctor told me they miomic things like ADD which I thought I might have. It also is responsible for a number of emotional, mental, and physical problems I am having. I thought some where linked but did not know nearly all of them were untill recently. Even musclle pain I thought was arthritus is due to when tyou do not get stage 4 sleep no muscle repair gets done nad in people wiht no sleep disorders if they disrupt sdtage 4 sleep they will begin to get bad muscle pains. I only found this out today
at several other links to thinga I have or am getting in the last two weeks. I learned from this forum things related to better machines, masks, and things that would better help my sleep disorders..thanks

Best answer:

Answer by MJQ
At any online forum, there frequently will be those rude sort of scum that will, as you point out, “kick people when they are already down”. It’s easy for people to act like vermin under the anonymity of an online forum. I’m surprised that the forum you mention (for psychology?) is not moderated, where you could report abuse. Just remember, do not judge yourself according to others’ ideas–nobody knows you better than yourself. If you are suicidal (or recently have been), you ought to be getting personal attention from a professional, perhaps a psychotherapist or a psychiatrist (have you ruled out biologically-triggered issues; example: bi-polar disorder?). I hope you are feeling better soon. Do not give up hope; God bless you.

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Q&A: Genuine help needed..I am being harassed, insulted, critiicized, name called on a forum I got on 2 weeks ago.?

Question by janie: Genuine help needed..I am being harassed, insulted, critiicized, name called on a forum I got on 2 weeks ago.?
I was very depressed and even somewaht suicidal when I posted initially 2 weeks ago, This forum deals with sleep disorders and I don’t want to leave as I am learning more in 2 weeks than in the previous 15 years and see real hope for an assortment of related ills. I started a thread among thousands on sharing alternative treatments for various sleep disorders and it immediately got attacked by people who don’t believe in alternative health

When I defended my view, it apparently exacerbated their dislike and about 5 people are being rude and started criticising my intelligence, spelling, character traits, mental health, and tons of things in a very cruel and mean way, I stuck up for myself and now they seem madder than ever in their vigilence to attack me.

I eventually told them I was very vulnerable, dealing with a lot of personal problems, crying from their posts,. and essentially begging them to stop and if they didn’t
believe in natural health to please go to any of the thousands of other threads and stop harassing me or go to the 1999 other threads that don’t discuss this topic if it bothers them. A few are only posting on my thread and one even is personal messaging his hateful talk.

I would like advice on what is behind this, how to get it too stop and how to get the thread back on topic. Also how to help myself not respond which I am attempting to do but it’s hard and not let it get to me. I have learned more in 2 weeks on this website than in 15 years and my doctors and for the first time I feel real ho[pe I may get some of these disorders that have ruined my life for about 25 years so I don’t want to leave. I feel like they are trying to chase me away and upset me though they turn it around and say they weren’t bashing just before they bash or say essentially leave if you don’t like it–we will continue.

Advice badly needed as it is REALLY starting to get me down.
what is with people who kick people when they are already down?
I want to thank EVERYONE for your kind, helpful, and caring answers. You people are tops and restore my faith in people. May each of your lives be blessed.
this is so hard to pick a best..several were good..I will have to come back and reread them to see which you to pick but wish I could pick most of them as many good responses..thanks
each time I read these I can’t believe how nice and helpful and kind almost all of you are. I wish I would pick a dozen best as most of these answers are tops. Although I can’t give you all 10 points, I can tell you that you are stand up human beings and the world could use more people like you. Thanks to all. Thanks to for offes to talk and compliments –I appreciate it.

Best answer:

Answer by starryeyed
Many people are decent, but then there are the sharks that smell blood.
The more you admit they’re getting to you, the longer they atack, and hang around for you to die, so they can go back in for the real feed.
That’s shark behavior,
and that’s the way these jerks are.
You cannot control them- only your reactions.

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Forum tackles Santa Barbara’s homeless issues

Forum tackles Santa Barbara’s homeless issues
As Santa Barbara grapples with a rise in homeless deaths and increased panhandling, activists, business owners and officials gathered Wednesday night for a meeting aimed at addressing problems near the Casa Esperanza homeless shelter.
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A hilarious read that’s sure to burn some calories
A hilarious read that’s sure to burn some calories It should’ve come as no surprise, then, when Ugel started punching extra notches in his belt. But his weight problem wasn’t a problem until his wife recorded ultra-loud snoring and Ugel reluctantly signed into a sleep clinic. The diagnosis: he had sleep apnea so severe that he literally turned blue while slumbering – all because of his weight.
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